12 Steps to Divorce Recovery for Men

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(1) Then I Saw Her Face, I'm in love

"I'm a Believer" - Smash Mouth

I thought love was

Only true in fairy tales

Meant for someone else

But not for me

Love was out to get to me

That's the way it seems

Disappointment haunted

All my dreams

And then I saw her face

Now I'm a believer

Not a trace

Of doubt in my mind

I'm in love

I'm a believer

I couldn't leave her

If I tried

I thought love was

More or less a given thing

But the more I gave the less

I got, oh yeah

What's the use in trying

All you get is pain

When I wanted sunshine

I got rain

And then I saw her face

Now I'm a believer

Not a trace

Of doubt in my mind

I'm in love

I'm a believer

I couldn't leave her

If I tried

What's the use in trying

All you get is pain

When I wanted sunshine

I got rain

And then I saw her face

Now I'm a believer

Not a trace

Of doubt in my mind

I'm in love

I'm a believer

I couldn't leave her

If I tried

Then I saw her face

Now I'm a believer

Not a trace

Of doubt in my mind

Now I'm a believer

Yeah, yeah, yeah

Yeah, yeah, yeah

I'm a believer

I'm a believer

I'm a believer

(2) You would have dedicated and sacrificed your everything

You assume it's ok to use your heart

"Crawling in the Dark" - Hoobastank

I will dedicate

And sacrifice my everything for just a second's worth

Of how my story's ending

And I wish I could know if the directions that I take

And all the choices that I make won't end up all for nothing

Show me what it's for

Make me understand it

I've been crawling in the dark looking for the answer

Is there something more than what i've been handed?

I've been crawling in the dark looking for the answer

Help me carry on

Assure me it's ok to use my heart and not my eyes

To navigate the darkness

Will the ending be ever coming suddenly?

Will I ever get to see the ending to my story?

Show me what it's for

Make me understand it

I've been crawling in the dark looking for the answer

Is there something more than what i've been handed?

I've been crawling in the dark looking for the answer

So when and how will I know?

How much further do I have to go?

How much longer until I finally know?

Because I'm looking and I just can't see what's in front of me

In front of me

Show me what it's for

Make me understand it

I've been crawling in the dark looking for the answer

Is there something more than what i've been handed?

I've been crawling in the dark looking for the answer

(3) She is Everything, You Are 2nd

"Addicted" - Lit

She calls me up

Says she's comin' over

So I run home

(oooh-ooh)

Just to wait around

She calls me names

Then we play some mind games

And I don't know

(oooh-ooh)

But I think I like it

Now she's the only one

Who blocks my number

And she's the only one call

[CHORUS:]

(Yeah, oh yeah)

What's wrong with me?

(Yeah, oh yeah)

Why can't I see?

(Yeah, oh yeah)

I'm so addicted to you...and you're such a dick to me

She flies me out

Got a big surprise planned

In Chicago

(oooh-ooh)

That's my kinda town

She says she's been a ho

Had to let me know

On the Jerry Springer Show

[CHORUS]

[guitar solo]

I wrap myself

Around her little finger

And she gives me the middle one

[CHORUS]

She calls and I come runnin' back

I call, she never calls me back

What's wrong with me

I'm so addicted to you...and you're such a dick to me

(3.1) She's pushing on every nerve

"Dirthouse" - Static-X

My dirthouse

Watch it happen from the box

Mind wanders

Dirty dirty word

My dirthouse

This is where it all comes down

Look into my eye

You feel my skin, its dirt

Drive me wild

Remember when you blew my mind?

Cut through me

Living in the dirt

These dogs are curled up in a little ball

These dogs are freezing their asses off

Go, go , go

Pick up the pieces

I wanna call this my home

Go, go, go

Pick up the pieces

I've got some pain of my own

Open the box

See whats inside

You make the call

Sick of it all again

Tear me down

Pushing on my every nerve

Scares me

I hope i don't get burnt

Look closer

Look into my dirty mind

Feeling sick inside

My blood has turned to fucking dirt

(3.2) Is She Pretending to Care?

"Are You There?" - Oleander

When I feel too far away

From where I want to be

There's nothing left for me, yeah

When I feel too close to breathe

Like a baby cutting teeth

In you I find relief

'Cause when it's more than I can take

I pushed and pulled to break

A sucker for a saint in your eyes

Criticism comes in waves

Numbering our days

But only you can save me

Is anybody even there

who doesn't just pretend to care

This time I need to know - are you there?

Does anybody think they can

Begin to even understand

This time I need to know - are you there?

Hang on, hang on

I know, I know

It's the lie that we believe

A truth that we conceive

That lies inside of me

When I leave it all behind

Something hypnotized

The moment that it's mine

Is anybody even there

Who doesn't just pretend to care

This time I need to know - are you there?

Does anybody think they can

Begin to even understand

this time I need to know - are you there?

Is anybody even there?

Who doesn't just pretend to care

This time I need to know - are you there?

Does anybody think they can

Begin to even understand

This time I need to know - are you there?

(3.3) Her promises, they're all played out

"Promises" - Adema

I went outside to take a walk

So I could relive memories

I thought that you would lend a hand

But you were never ever there

It's all in your mind

You do what you wanna do

Your promises are all played out

You've got your wish you've worn me down

I treated you the best I could

I realize that I don't need you

I lost my way when you left home

I thought that you could change your life

What did I do why do you lie

You've walked back in my hands are tied

I'm tired I'm so damn angry

With you

Your not gonna change

I see who you really are

Your promises your promises

They're all played out

Your so played out your so played out

There all played out

(4) She Files for Divorce

"I Don't Know What to do with myself" -

White Stripes

I just don't know what to do with myself

I don't know what to do with myself

planning everything for two

doing everything with you

and now that we're through

I just don't know what to do

I just don't know what to do with myself

I don't know what to do with myself

movies only make me sad

parties make me feel as bad

cause I'm not with you

I just don't know what to do

like a summer rose

needs the sun and rain

I need your sweet love

to beat love away

well I don't know what to do with myself

just don't know what to do with myself

planning everything for two

doing everything with you

and now that we're through

I just don't know what to do

like a summer rose

needs the sun and rain

I need your sweet love

to beat love away

I just don't know what to do with myself

just don't know what to do with myself

just don't know what to do with myself

I don't know what to do with myself

(4.1) It's not as bad as it seems

Is it easier now that I'm not around?

We don't have to pretend

You got your Hollywood ending

You could've been the star of my show anytime

"Hollywood Ending" - Motley Crue

Ooh yeah-ah

Did you want it this way

Breaking us down a little bit at a time

Is it easier now that I'm not around

Oh is it time to draw the line

We don't have to pretend

Ya got your Hollywood ending

(Another Hollywood ending)

Ya got your Hollywood ending

(Another Hollywood ending)

Leave it to me

To act like a fool begging you to come back

When I had you I had everything

Now all I have is this photograph

There's nothing here to defend

it's not a Hollywood ending

(Another Hollwood ending)

It's not as bad as it seems

(Another Hollwood ending)

It's hard to give up your dreams

(Another Hollwood ending)

It's not a Hollywood ending

(Another Hollwood ending)

Well you don't have to go

Oh you don't have to go

You could've been the star of

My show anytime

No, you don't have to go

I called on the phone

Came by your home

To find out that you're not alone

Now we don't have to pretend

That it's a Hollywood ending

(Another Hollywood ending)

It's not as bad as it seems

(Another Hollywood ending)

It's hard to give up your dreams

(Another Hollywood ending)

All that glitters will fade

(Another Hollywood ending)

Just like the promise ya made

(Another Hollywood ending)

Just like the promise ya made

(Another Hollywood ending)

(Another Hollywood ending)

(Another Hollywood ending)

(5) You Break Me Down

"Down" - Socialburn

Tell me, how does it feel

When it comes to you

And all the things you say to me

You make me feel like nothing

Like nothing

When you break me down

I'll fall apart and

Wrestle with myself, inside

I'm nothing

And tell me, how should I feel

When it comes to you

And all the games you play, on me

You still make feel like nothing

Like nothing

When you break me down

I'll fall apart and

Wrestle with myself, inside

I'm nothing

(When you break me down)

(When you break me down)

(When you break me down)

(And all the things you do)

(Like nothing, like nothing, like nothing)

Tell me, how should this feel

When it comes to you

And all the things you do, to me

This makes me feel like nothing

Like nothing

When you break me down

I'll fall apart and

Wrestle with myself, inside

I'm nothing

When you break me down

I'll fall apart and

Wrestle with myself, inside

I'm nothing

(When you break me down)

(Break me down)

I'm nothing

(5.1) Everything's feeling unclear

"Hate Every Beautiful Day" - Sugarcult

Something's gotta change again

I'm losing, my inspirations gone, oh no oh no

Seeing through some different eyes

I can't find, my medications failed, again again

I can feel a change

I can feel, can you feel it

See it on the street watching heat from the pavement

Cause I'm here, ready to take it all here

Everything's feeling unclear

I wish it was raining

Cause I hate every beautiful day

Faces in the crowd

Fake smiles for miles

My imitations wrong of them again

Trapped inside this cheap hotel

Bored as hell turing the channels 'round

In my head

In my bed

I can feel a change

I can feel, can you feel it

See it on the street watching heat from the pavement

Cause I'm here, ready to take it all here

Everything's feeling unclear

I wish it was raining

Cause I hate every beautiful day

I can feel a change

I can feel, can you feel it

See it on the street watching heat from the pavement

I can feel a change

I can feel, can you feel it

I'm not the same, not the same lost my feeling

All I know I'll never know

All I know I'll never know

Cause I'm here, ready to take it all here

Everything's feeling unclear

I wish it was raining

Cause I hate every beautiful day

Every beautiful day

Every beautiful day

Every beautiful day

(5.2) It seems like everything is gray

Trying to stay sober feels like you're dying

"Fine Again" - Seether

It seems like every day's the same

and I'm left to discover on my own

It seems like everything is gray

and there's no color to behold

They say it's over and I'm fine again, yeah

Try to stay sober feels like I'm dying here

And I am aware now of how

everything's gonna be fine one day

Too late, I'm in hell I am prepared now,

seems everyone's gonna be fine

One day too late, just as well

I feel the dream in me expire

and there's no one left to blame it on

I hear you label me a liar

'cause I can't seem to get this through

You say it's over, I can sigh again, yeah

Why try to stay sober when I'm dying here

And I am aware now of how

everything's gonna be fine one day

Too late, I'm in hell

I am prepared now,

seems everyone's gonna be fine

One day too late; just as well

And I'm not scared now.

I must assure you,

you're never gonna get away

And I'm not scared now.

And I'm not scared now. No!

I am aware now of how

everything's gonna be fine one day

Too late, I'm in hell

I am prepared now

seems everyone's gonna be fine

One day too late, just as well

I am prepared now,

seems everything's gonna be fine for me

For me; for myself.

For me, for me, for myself

For me, for me, for myself

(6) You finally wake-up, hello!

"She Hates Me" - Puddle of Mudd

Met a girl, thought she was grand

fell in love, found out first hand

went well for a week or two

then it all came unglued

in a trapped trip I can't grip

never thought I'd be the one who'd slip

then I started to realize

I was living one big lie

She fucking hates me

trust

she fucking hates me

la la la love

I tried too hard

and she tore my feelings like I had none

and ripped them away

She was queen for about an hour

after that shit got sour

she took all I ever had

no sign of guilt

no feeling of bad, no

In a trapped trip I can't grip

never thought i'd be the one who'd slip

then I started to realize

I was living one big lie

[Chorus]

that's my story, as you see

learned my lesson and so did she

now it's over and i'm glad

'cause i'm a fool for all i've said

[Chorus]

la la la la la la la la la love

Trust

la la la la la la la la la love

Trust

and she tore my feelings like I had none

she fucking hates me

(6.1) Two faced!

I feel her crawling under my skin

Hey little bitch!

Controlling me every step of the way

"Greed" - Godsmack

Two faced! I feel you crawling under my skin.

Sickened by your face.

By the way, to think that your so fucking kind?

You ain't!

Hard to find how I feel, especially when your smothering me.

Hard to find how I feel, please someone help me!

I knew when an angel whispered into my ear,

You gotta get him away.

Hey little bitch! Be glad you finally walked away or

you may have not lived another day.

Hard to find how I feel, especially when your smothering me.

Hard to find how I feel, please someone help me.

Hard to find how I feel, controlling me every step of the way.

Hard to find how I feel, you greedy little baby!!

(7) Flashback. Remembering the good times

"All Summer Long" - Kid Rock

It was 1989, my thoughts were short my hair was long

Caught somewhere between a boy and man

She was seventeen and she was far from in-between

It was summertime in Northern Michigan

Ahh Ahh Ahh

Ahh Ahh Ahh

Splashing through the sand bar

Talking by the campfire

It's the simple things in life, like when and where

We didn't have no internet

But man I never will forget

The way the moonlight shined upon her hair

[Chorus:]

And we were trying different things

We were smoking funny things

Making love out by the lake to our favorite song

Sipping whiskey out the bottle, not thinking 'bout tomorrow

Singing Sweet home Alabama all summer long

Singing Sweet home Alabama all summer long

Catching Walleye from the dock

Watching the waves roll off the rocks

She'll forever hold a spot inside my soul

We'd blister in the sun

We couldn't wait for night to come

To hit that sand and play some rock and roll

While we were trying different things

And we were smoking funny things

Making love out by the lake to our favorite song

Sipping whiskey out the bottle, not thinking 'bout tomorrow

Singing Sweet Home Alabama all summer long

Singing Sweet Home Alabama all summer long

Now nothing seems as strange as when the leaves began to change

Or how we thought those days would never end

Sometimes I'll hear that song and I'll start to sing along

And think man I'd love to see that girl again

[Repeat Chorus x2]

Singing Sweet Home Alabama all summer long

Singing Sweet Home Alabama all summer long

Singing Sweet Home Alabama all summer long

Singing Sweet Home Alabama all summer long

Better luck next time

(8) Get Control of Your Life

Free Again, doing things your way

"My Way or the Highway" - Limp Bizkit

special, you think your special you do,

i can see it in your eyes i can see it when you laugh at me look down

on me and, you walk around on me just one more fight

about your leadership and i will straight up leave your shit

cause i've had enough of this and now i'm pissed (yeah)

this time i'm a let it all come out this time i'm a stand up

and shout i'm a do things my way,

it's my way, my way

or the highway this time i'm a let it all come out this time

i'm a stand up and shout i'm a do things my way,

it's my way, my way

or the highway just one more

fight about a lotta things and i will give up everything to be on my own again,

free again this time i'm a let it all come out this time

i'm a stand up and shout i'm a do things my way,

it's my way, my way

or the highway this time i'm a let it all come out this time

i'm a stand up and shout i'm a do things my way,

it's my way, my way

or the highway someday you'll see things my way cause you never know,

no ya never know when your gonna go someday

you'll see things my way cause you never know,

no ya never know when your gonna go just one more fight

and i'll be history yes i will straight up leave your shit

and you'll be the one who's left missing me (yeah)

this time i'm a let it all come out this time

i'm a stand up and shout i'm a do things my way,

it's my way, my way

or the highway this time i'm a let it all come out this time i'm a stand up

and shout i'm a do things my way,

it's my way, my way

or the highway someday you'll see things my way cause you never know,

when ya never know when your gonna go someday

you'll see things my way cause you never know,

when ya never know

(9) Weekends with the Kid(s)

"Single Father" - Kid Rock

Lately I've been spendin' lots of time with my kid

Tellin' him stories

About the things that we did

When we were a family

Long time ago

I've answered his questions

Till I'm blue in the face

Wish all that hurt in him

I could erase

But I tell him the truth

Cause he ain't to young to know

Single father

Part time mother

When I'm not one

Then I'm the other

You used to be

My full time lover

Now I'm a single father

And a part time mother

I spend every minute

I can with my boy

There's no doubt about it

He's my pride and joy

Someday he will grow up

And I wont have him no more

Some things I just find

Too hard to explain

So we go to McDonalds

Or I buy him a train

And we go put it together

On the living room floor

Such is the life

Of a single father

He says daddy explain

If its not too much bother

While its just you and me

Living here in this home

I don't understand it

And neither does he

Why there's just two

When there should be three of us

Sharing this moment

Lord I feel so alone

[repeat chorus]

(10) You finally get over Her

"Diggin' This" - Nickelback

You say you don't want it

Just watch and you'll flaunt it

You stare at the ceiling

And ignore what I'm feeling

Well that's fine, hey I don't mind

I can find nothing wrong with it

And you say in your polite way

Oh by the way can you get on with it?

Now that I've seen

Not really Diggin This!

Did I ask for your input?

How's the taste of your own foot?

To speak and not be right

You'd like to just rewrite

My life and take what you like

And decide with all of it

And to know that if it goes right

You'll never find out if I wanted it

Now that I've seen

Not really Diggin This!

Now that I know

Not really Diggin This!

Called him twice today

They said he went away

I never wondered why

They tried to hold him

Ain't never comin' back

Pull out the welcome mat

I never wondered why

They tried to hold him

The way that its goin'

To laugh without knowin'

The way that I'm feelin'

Inside is unappealin'

Well that's fine, hey I don't mind

I can find nothing wrong with it

And you say in your polite way

Oh by the way can you get on with it?

Now that I've seen

Not really Diggin This!

Now that I know

Not really Diggin This!

Not really Diggin This!

(11) Farewell to mediocrity

Your life is getting clearer

Those trinkets once were treasure

You finally found your way

Say goodbye to yesterday

Kick off the cruise-control, live

And turn up the radio

"Lost Highway" - Bon Jovi

In my rearview mirror

My life is getting clearer

The sunset sighs and slowly disappears

These trinkets once were treasure

Life changes like the weather

You grow up, grow old or hit the road 'round here

So I drive, watching white lines passing by

With my plastic dashboard Jesus, waiting there to greet us

Hey, hey, I finally found my way

Say goodbye to yesterday

Hit the gas there ain't no brakes on the lost highway

Yeah I'm busting loose, I'm letting go

Out on this open road

It's independence day on this lost highway

I don't know where I'm going

But I know where I've been

Now I'm afraid of going back again

So I drive, years and miles are flying by

And waiting there to great us

Is my plastic dashboard Jesus

Oh patron saint of lonely souls

To tell this boy which way to go

Guide the car, you got the keys

Farewell to mediocrity

Kicking off the cruise-control

And turning up the radio

Got just enough religion

And a half tank of gas come on, let's go

I finally found my way

Say goodbye to yesterday

Hit the gas there ain't no brakes on the lost highway

Yeah I'm busting loose, I'm letting go

Out on this open road

It's independence day on this lost highway

(12) You know no fear

You are still standing tall

Way to go, man!

"Bounce" - Bon Jovi

I been knocked down so many times

Counted out 6, 7, 8, 9

Written off like some bad deal

If you're breathing you know how it feels

Call it karma, call it luck

Me, I just don't give a

[Chorus:]

Bounce, Bounce Nothing's gonna keep me down

Bounce, Bounce Stand up, shout it out

Bounce, Bounce I play hard, I play to win

Count me out, count me in

I'll be bouncing back again

This ain't no game; I play it hard

Kicked around, cut, stitched and scarred

I'll take the hit but not the fall

I know no fear, still standing tall

You can call it karma, call it luck

Me, I just don't give a

[Chorus:]

Bounce, Bounce Nothing's gonna keep me down

Bounce, Bounce Stand up, shout it out

Bounce, Bounce I play hard, I play to win

Count me out, count me in

I'll be bouncing back again

Bounce!

[Guitar Solo]

Bring it on, I like it rough

In your face, I call your bluff

It ain't karma, it ain't luck

Me, I just don't give a

[Chorus:]

Bounce, Bounce Nothing's gonna keep me down

Bounce, Bounce Stand up, shout it out

Bounce, Bounce I play hard, I play to win

Count me out, count me in

I'll be bouncing back again

Bounce, Bounce

Nothing's gonna keep me down

Bounce, Bounce Stand up, shout it out

Bounce, Bounce I play hard, I play to win

Count me out, count me in

I'll be bouncing back again

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